I can be really emotional and needy.
I remember coming home as a child and crying to my mum “No one loves me mummy”.
Over the years, through the knowledge of Christ, I have become much less needy but I still yearn for earthly friendships.
Of course my best friends are in my immediate family, but apart from them I often ask myself who really are my friends. It’s funny because people who “know” me will swear I have tons of friends, as I seem to know everyone, but knowing people and having friends are two different things.
My seeming lack of friends was even more apparent after I had my baby; apart from family I didn’t have too many other people around me (until days later). For me, when friends have babies I try to see them in the same week but some people who I regard as friends saw baby for the first time on Sunday after 8 weeks -at her dedication. Maybe I expect too much.
The other day, it was the birthday of a dear friend of mine (one of the few). We (her friends) decided to have a surprise birthday and baby shower for her. It was really nice; two friends brought lovely cakes and we all brought food. She cried and was so moved. I thought to myself: who would think of having a party for me outside my immediate family? No one (well except A & T). I was so sad and a bit jealous until I heard the toast given by one of the friends “To H who has been a wonderful friend to us all”…
Eureka! you can only attract good friends by being a good friend yourself.
The truth is that I know I am a very good friend, but God was telling me to be better only then will I attract the right friends.
at least u have ur family…
some people dont have any …
i thank God for my family and friends…
hope to see u soon… i am still coming before easter by God’s grace… dont panic..i have a place to stay in abuja…lol
hmm…its better to have few GOOD friends o! but thank God you have your family. How’s our baby girl?
Well, I like to say that i am thankful for the small number of true friends God has blessed me with. They are closer than family members. I have learned through my experiences and those of others, that it is better to have a few friends that you can always count on, than to have a battalion of acquaintances or fake friends.
No worry, Chioma. God dey. Your cup overfloweth.
NIGERIAN CURIOSITY
IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN I ONLY HAD ONE…
thanks aloted..she is doing wonderful! such a peaceful child. solomonsydelle and aloted i hear u oh having a few good friends..very true..The problem is I dont even have those few..just have lots of “friends” but have no depth in the friendship..The bible says there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother…my sisters I am yet to see that friend.
Have a good one!
ps`solsydelle how did u get your older boys keep away from your longest, they mean well but worried they may hurt her..
We are seven kids…me being the first…we were brought up to be friends….so my best friends are my siblings…I think its great…
there r times we doubt if we really have friends, but something happens and u will be surprised how people actually care. Like u said, the most important thing is to be a good friend. But nothing can place the place of a good family.
afrobabe,,yep its important to be best friends with your siblings,,,breaks my heart when i see siblings that aint close.
uzezi..true nothing like family..
it’s never about much friends u have but the quality of the ones u got! if u have ONE awesome friend, that’s usually more than enuff…
hwz the baby?
quality not quantity…thanks sims
Ah. I used to ask myself that question as I spent loads of years without deep meaningful friendships.
I know now that I was not in the right season and even more assured not that I am in the right season for real friends. The kind that will grow old with me. Your season will come, we are being prepared for it everyday.
thanks mamalopes thats very reassuring .
I dont have many friends but lots of acquitances but the few good old friends are better than hundreds.I just discovered that i prefer my friends from way back and we have been there for one another and distance matter not to us.
Wow, I love that. It just goes to show, no matter where we came from, we all have the same issues. I too ask who are my real friends, I too ask myself am I asking too much from them, cuz I know I will bend over backwards for them, etc… That toast knocked the ball out the park! Thanks cuz it encourage me to continue to be who I am.
well i understand were a lot of the comments are coming from……. yes the quality of friends is important, but what happends when your a good friend and all you get bad is back stabin? Dont you feel bad….. I’m always doing things for my friends and their birthdays or when they are getting married , or having children…. Just seems like no1 does anything for me…. i mean i dont do things so they would do anything for me, but it would be nice if someone did something for me once…..
Any how i am so proud that you are a good friend keep it up and the rest….. Take care God bless. xoxox