I got a call yesterday..” Aunty, its rafiu please i need a loan of 3000 naira..please I will pay you back in two weeks, please my wife just lost a baby, pls..” before he could finish I told him to come over.
Rafiu is a young man who did some work for me a few years ago. Over the years he continued to call me to solicit for more jobs and just say hello.
When he finally came and told me his story I almost cried. His wife got pregnant for the first time 4 years ago…out of ignorance they didnt register in a hospital. They figured that when the time came they would just rush to the hospital like they had seen so many other women do. However, when her time came and they rushed to a popular government hospital in town the doctor on duty ask them if they had registered previously. When he replied that it was their first time there he just ignored her. Rafiu was almost in tears ” aunty they left her in pains, screaming all through the night, by the time the morning doctor came the baby was dead”.
My Question is why must they always be nasty in government hospitals?If you want to be a doctor or nurse you should have a passion for saving lives, and helping people.Why can’t you just be nice and humane to patients?I agree they may not be paid well but when you choose to work in the healthcare sector it shouldnt be about money.
Anyway let me continue Rafiu’s story. They were devastated by the loss and it took them 2 yrs to conceive again. He was put off by the attitude of the staff at the general hospital and decided to register in a private hospital in the outskirts of Abuja. His wife went into premature labour when she was 7 months pregnant..” Aunty I saw the baby a boy, very small, but alive and moving…a few hours after he was dead”
I felt so sad, you could see a deflated man, he felt like a failure …how could he loose 2 sons just like that..” What sin have I commited aunty?” As he was telling me the story he was yet to tell his wife, he was scared . To compound the whole thing the only thing his mum could say was that he should send the girl away and find someone else to marry..as there was something wrong with her.
I gave him him 3,000 he needed to pay up her bills and counselled him. I pray they carry a baby in the arms soon, and I pray that Nigerian Health workers have a change of attitude.
On a lighter note why is is that Nigerians just know how to bring people down. I had a baby some months ago and I think I look great (if I may say so myself) all of a sudden someone…sees me and is like oh my goodness ..u are so fat!why did you let yourself go?better do something fast..I almost didnt recognise you.. na wa better work on yourself fast….lol! Like d’banj would say your just jealous cus ” I’m(H) OT and your NOT!”