Helping your child adjust to financial changes

We are in a recession and most people are finding ways to cut costs in everywhere. One sector that has felt the effect of cost cutting  is the education sector. Some Parents are having to remove their children from expensive schools and putting them in more affordable schools. In some cases, children who attend schools in the UK or else where in “the abroad” are having to come back to seek alternatives in Nigeria. While this may not seem like a big deal, it may be a big blow to some children’s  self esteem, if not well handled. Here are a few ways to help your child deal with a ” down sizing”  of finances and a change of circumstances.


Tell them the truth : I remember when my parents had to withdraw me from a very expensive school when I was about 8. It was a lovely school (still is the best in Lagos) but as civil servants with six children dealing with the  annual school fees increments was becoming almost unbearable. After they had reached a decision they told me simply “we can’t quite afford your school anymore,so you are changing to another nice school”. They didn’t say anymore and I don’t think giving too many explanations is necessary. When you talk too much,it’s puts unnecessary pressure on your child, just make it plain and simple.

Teach them about finances: Start by playing money games like monopoly with your children. A common game I played with my sister as a child involved a market scene. One of us would be the market woman and the other person the buyer, we haggled and had fun but in the process we learnt the art of “pricing ” (bargaining). You could also get them a piggy bank and encourage them to save part of their allowance in it so they can learn the value of saving money.


Find alternatives: Even when money is tight there are always alternatives. When it comes to schools you may not be able to afford a particular school anymore  but maybe you can still afford their after school or summer  activities. That way they are still benefiting from their education and still get to see their old classmates. Also take your time to find other schools that are within your price range and will welcome your suggestions in areas where they are lacking. Another example is if Christmas holidays abroad were the norm; if your current finances don’t allow that then plan a fun trip to the village or an exotic location in the country. You will be shocked that the children may end up enjoying it more.

Don’t let too much change: while major changes like change of school may be inevitable don’t change everything if possible! It’s important to let a child ease into change so try only to change what absolutely necessary. They are not responsible for the state of the economy and as much as possible should not feel like they are being “punished”. However you need to always keep things real.

At the end of the day it’s important that everyone comes to terms with their financial reality. While you keep praying for better days ahead, be wise, adjust your expenses and keep calm and carry on.

8 thoughts on “Helping your child adjust to financial changes

  1. A timely word for this season.
    Can you write more on what to do when their old school mates seem to be avoiding them?

    1. Thanks alot for your comment Lydia. Friends avoiding one due to a change in circumstance or whatever is a good topic to address as even adults have a hard time dealing with such…will address it very soon.

  2. Great post Chioma. I really do have to teach my kids finances. What’s your guide around when to start them on an allowance, what the allowance should cover and if possible guide to deciding amount to be given. Thanks

    1. Thanks for your super comment Nkechi. To be honest the issue of pocket money is one I have been dancing around for a while but so far this is what I do;
      -I do not give money for chores.
      -I wait till they are in Secondary school and even then I do not give them more than they need.
      -You must account for every naira given you even if its N100 I want to know what you did with it.
      -They all have saving accounts and I make sure money goes in there on a regular basis, even if its N1000 a month it translates to something. I plan to hand these accounts over to them when they are about 16 or so.
      -I make them responsible with reasonable sums of money if something needs to be paid for I give them the money (depending on the amount) and teach them keep it safe and to ask for receipts where given.
      -I send them to buy things from a store (sometimes I am just outside the store watching) as I want them to understand prices and get correct change returned (started this quite young).
      -I take them to the Market (boys and girl)
      Hope this helps!

      Hope this is helpful.

  3. Timely Words of wisdom. I especially like your response to the last comment. Also i never knew monopoly is a good game to teach kids, at what age is it adviceable to teach them monopoly?

    1. As early as possible maybe at the age of 6 .. Once they can play any board games you can introduce it. Thanks for your comment.

  4. Beautiful post. I have also learnt alot from your answers to the comments. Bless you sis.
    The Esther’s anointing pls ??

    1. Thanks for your comments Chinwe. Don’t worry just keep reading and even if you don’t win the Esther Anointing you will win something else.

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