When Siblings are Good Friends

Recently it was International Friends Day! 

I have made different friends across different categories… work friends, close friends, gym buddies, intimate friends (pure sense), covenant friends, casual friends, acquaintances (not quite a friend) etc.ย 

However I would like to talk about sibling friends. That you are siblings doesn’t guarantee friendship but when you are friends it’s a sweet affair!

Who knows you better than someone who’s been there all your life? You may be as different as night and day yet you flow and have each other’s backs. I love it when I see siblings who are friends.

On the flip side some siblings aren’t friends and while it’s ok when they at least get along it can be toxic when they barely tolerate each other. This can result in disunity , disharmony and distrust.ย 

For some there is even animosity stemming from years of envy and sibling rivalry!ย 

That’s where parenting comes in.ย 
๐ŸŸชย Don’t compare your children Child 1 : Omalicham, Oko mi, most beautiful baby Child 2 : common get out see your head like your ugly grand pa.
๐ŸŸจย Don’t “knock their heads” i e. don’t put them against each otherย ย To child 1..” Hmm child 2 wants to render me broke it’s because of that your useless brother I can’t do more for you.
๐ŸŸฆย Treat them fairly and try not to take sides…not necessarily equally but fairly.ย i e. You may not give them the same toy but make sure they both get toys well suited to them
๐ŸŸฅย Family time: When you spend more time together i.e.ย  praying, on vacation, cooking, talking etc.ย  they bond more.ย  Try not to divide them gender wise so boys and girls are close.
๐ŸŸฉListen to them: Conflict is sure to occur, and as the parent try and listen to every side.
๐ŸŸซย Celebrate their individuality: Children are different! I have 2 brothers and 4 sisters and we are all so different, understanding this will help you not compare as well.
While your children may not be bffs let’s give them a chance to at least be friends!ย 
๐—”๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€?๐—”๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€?

One thought on “When Siblings are Good Friends

  1. This is really beautiful, ma. I got value.

    Well, I’m friends but my siblings however, it’s really not an easy task to build one. From tolerating a few excesses to managing their differences.

    Nonetheless, it’s a beautiful thing that I’ll always strive for.

    Thank you, Ma.

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